I used a mirror and flashlight to see what was holding the PCM connector to the PCM itself. It's a special tamper proof torks bit that is needed to remove it. Do I have to go to the dealer and buy a special bit to remove it or is there another place that might have one?

 

Chances are you can buy one elsewhere, even by mail. An online store may well provide pics so you can match up what you want. However - you will probbaly find it's not the PCM! They hardly ever fail. More often they're changed but not faulty.